SHEA BUTTER
Shea butter (Butyrospermum parkii), also known as karite butter, is a cream-colored fatty substance made from the nuts of karite nut trees (also called Mangifolia trees) that grow in the savannah regions of West and Central Africa. Karite trees, or Shea trees, are not cultivated. They grow only in the wild, and can take up to 50 years to mature (they live up to 300 years!). In most parts of West Africa, destruction of the Shea tree is prohibited because this little nut provides a valuable source of food, medicine, and income for the population. In fact, Shea Butter is sometimes referred to as “women’s gold” in Africa, because so many women are employed in the production of Shea Butter. It known as ORI in the West and OKUME amongst the IGALA speaking people of Kogi State. The Trees are found around Middle belt region of Nigeria (Kogi, Nassarawa, Benue, Niger, Plateau and Kwara) North East (Taraba), some parts of the south west Region (Oyo, Ogun and Osun). It comes in white or light yellow, depending on the method of production, whatever the colour; the properties do not really differ. It is available at local herbal shops in some markets, sold in very small wraps for as low as N 50 and it comes in containers as much as N 300 but it can be gotten at interior local villages in large quantities.
Shea nuts are primarily grown in West and Central Africa in the semi-arid Sahel,referred to by traders as the "Shea Belt". Vitellaria paradoxa and Vitellaria nilotica are the two main varieties. Vitellaria paradoxais exported in the largest volume and grows throughout the West African region. Vitellaria nilotica is produced primarily in Northern Uganda and southern Sudan. Shea nut products, the solid fat (butter or stearin) and the liquid oil (olein), are ideal for use as raw materials in cooking oil,margarine, cosmetics, soap, detergents and candles, but it has found its primary market niche as a substitute for cocoa butter in the chocolate and confectionery industry.
Shea butter has been used to help heal burns, sores, scars, dermatitis, psoriasis, dandruff, and stretch marks. It may also help diminish wrinkles by moisturizing the skin, promoting cell renewal, and increasing circulation. Shea butter also contains cinnamic acid, a substance that helps protect the skin from harmful UV rays.
Shea butter is a particularly effective moisturizer because contains so many fatty acids, which are needed to retain skin moisture and elasticity. The high fatty acid content of Shea Butter also makes it an excellent additive to soap, shampoos, anti-aging creams, cosmetics, lotions, and massage oils—its soft, butter-like texture melts readily into the skin. Shea butter protects the skin from both environmental and free-radical damage. It contains vitamins A and E, and has demonstrated both antimicrobial and anti-inflammatory properties.
Unrefined Shea Butter is superior in that it retains all its natural vitamins, especially vitamin A and vitamin E. However, the natural smell of Shea can be a bit off-putting (stinky), though the aroma does disappear after it has been applied to your skin within minutes. You can also buy ultra-refined and refined Shea Butter. Both of these types have a more pleasing scent, colour, and consistency, although the refining process may diminish the vitamin potency. Not all Shea Butter products are created equal, and some products contain a significant amount of potentially irritating additives and very little real Shea Butter. That said, one hundred percent natural Shea Butter is a handy thing to have around the house. It can be used as an all-natural hair conditioner, moisturizer, and makeup remover, or as a treatment for burns, cuts, scrapes, sunburns, and diaper rash.
The concept is to source for Shea Butter Locally, Process it locally with the women around that area into buckets and then it will be packaged. After which it will available for sale. The source will be from the very best and the region with the best processing method. The whole process will be cost effective, to make it affordable, quality will not be compromised, the reason it will be hand-made processing the nuts, a process that will prevent loss of major nutrients and minerals, the very essence of natural Shea Butter. The sale of essential oil will compliment it; this gives target consumers the choice to mix it with the Shea Butter for those who will not like the natural smell. This will be pure, it will be sourced and processed locally, the essence it to retain the properties, the essence of nature. Mixing Shea Butter with some additives will alter the effectiveness as some properties will be lost. Traditionally, Shea Butter has proven to be effective used alone, even though some users mix with other local materials because of majorly the smell.
USES
Shea butter has been used to help heal burns, sores, scars, dermatitis, psoriasis, dandruff, and stretch marks. It may also help diminish wrinkles by moisturizing the skin, promoting cell renewal, and increasing circulation. Shea butter also contains cinnamic acid, a substance that helps protect the skin from harmful UV rays.
Shea butter is a particularly effective moisturizer because contains so many fatty acids, which are needed to retain skin moisture and elasticity. The high fatty acid content of shea butter also makes it an excellent additive to soap, shampoos, anti-aging creams, cosmetics, lotions, and massage oils—its soft, butter-like texture melts readily into the skin.
Shea butter protects the skin from both environmental and free-radical damage. It contains vitamins A and E, and has demonstrated both antimicrobial and anti-inflammatory properties.
Shea butter is already added to many cosmetic products, but you can also purchase 100 percent pure shea butter at most health food stores and from online distributors. Unrefined shea butter is superior in that it retains all its natural vitamins, especially vitamin A and vitamin E. However, the natural smell of shea can be a bit off-putting (stinky), though the aroma does disappear after it has been applied to your skin within minutes. You can also buy ultra-refined and refined shea butter. Both of these types are have a more pleasing scent, color, and consistency, although the refining process may diminish the vitamin potency.
Many online distributors sell shea butter in various sizes, containers, prices, and types, but make sure to do your research before buying them—not all shea butter products are created equal, and some products contain a significant amount of potentially irritating additives and very little real shea butter. That said, one hundred percent natural shea butter is a handy thing to have around the house. It can be used as an all-natural hair conditioner, moisturizer, and makeup remover, or as a treatment for burns, cuts, scrapes, sunburns, and diaper rash. Shea butter may also help treat skin problems such as eczema and psoriasis; however, keep in mind that you should always consult a physician or dermatologist about serious or persistent skin problems. Shea butter is not recommended for people with nut or latex allergies.
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Monday, January 17, 2011
HELP ME....WHAT IS SUCCESS?
What is success? it is easy to associate success with how much material you have. Its understandable to think that way, thats the trend. It is so much about what you have. money rules the world..no doubt. If you don't have money, almost like nothing happens for you. But is it so much about money? So is it really true that success is about how much money you have? The Bible says money answereth all things and money is good, yet money is not everything. I use to fear being broke and the panic of being without money is just pathetic but the last time i was broke i survived, i didn't die, i just worried my self to death because of what money meant to me....Money with all its goodness is certainly not everything. Who you are is not about what you have because if your personality is tied so much to what you have, the job you do, you will be crushed and perhaps, be nobody when its suddenly taken from you. Be so tied to that kind of life is an empty way to live. It can form part of your personality and some people will relate with you on that ground but you have to understand that who you are should transcend beyond all that. When they are no longer there, you will loose the crowd, people will vanish and things can be lonely and hard but if your personality is not tied, you be who you are, regardless. The society is driven by that thought and we are swayed into valuing people based on what they have. We worship people with what they have so much that they feel a sense of invincibility but when its suddenly taken away, people just become desperate to hold onto that life even to the last straw at all cost......its all because they have no life outside that. They only define who they are with all that stuffs and image.
Isn't Life more than that? really....are we so much about the materials that surrounds us? What if its suddenly taken? why do we cling so much to materials? Once people don't have what we think to be wealth, once they do not have what we define as swagger or once they do not have at all, we think we are more successful, we continually compare and compete in a race, run ourselves out to have, we are never satisfied. we suddenly begin having an exaggerated sense of ourselves.... even people who say they do not have pride, do! The average Black man does, thats why little success, wealth, power becomes our weakness. You see this in our classrooms, in our offices, on TV, on the streets, in places of worship and even in our football. Our personality is much tied to things that fade, it drives us, it defines us and its what we live for.
some people say, when you think this way it is probably a way to justify having a low life or a sign of envy....is that really true? when you have a great life, you sure do not have to explain to people and besides, so things in life have practical proofs. One of them is the fact that money is not everything and if you don't have a strong sense of who you are, what you want, you will be lost.
Live your best life, be all you can and never settle less and being broke is really bad but who you are should not be so much about what you have. Being all you, does not mean you should be mediocre. If you live so much for having the materials, it will be a case of vanity not the essence of life. You miss the important thing when you do not know what success really is, by the time you are 50 years old, if you are still alive, things will begin to change and then you really know, Money isn't everything!
I am an advocate for the essentials of life....things of eternal value, not like its an easy way to be because vanity screams everywhere. Nature, Laughter, Friendship, Family, conscience: the little miracles of everyday living, the sunshine, finding time to sit down after all the hustling, having time for family, pursuing things with eternal rewards....all these things that cost nothing! We are often so busy pursuing what success is to many of us, we miss out the important moments in our lives, we just hustle and hustle chasing the wind. I have not said, people should be lazy in fact, you have to work hard to succeed but then as you run around never loose sight of what is really important. In the end, Life is short, when a man dies, it ends, whatever the predicament, whatever the success, people will talk but you see the world will move on, memories will fade with time. Focus on what is really important, as you hustle, wanting the best, enjoying at every step of the way, as you go for the impossible, as you believe in yourself to take that step.....focus on the essence, never the vanities!
Isn't Life more than that? really....are we so much about the materials that surrounds us? What if its suddenly taken? why do we cling so much to materials? Once people don't have what we think to be wealth, once they do not have what we define as swagger or once they do not have at all, we think we are more successful, we continually compare and compete in a race, run ourselves out to have, we are never satisfied. we suddenly begin having an exaggerated sense of ourselves.... even people who say they do not have pride, do! The average Black man does, thats why little success, wealth, power becomes our weakness. You see this in our classrooms, in our offices, on TV, on the streets, in places of worship and even in our football. Our personality is much tied to things that fade, it drives us, it defines us and its what we live for.
some people say, when you think this way it is probably a way to justify having a low life or a sign of envy....is that really true? when you have a great life, you sure do not have to explain to people and besides, so things in life have practical proofs. One of them is the fact that money is not everything and if you don't have a strong sense of who you are, what you want, you will be lost.
Live your best life, be all you can and never settle less and being broke is really bad but who you are should not be so much about what you have. Being all you, does not mean you should be mediocre. If you live so much for having the materials, it will be a case of vanity not the essence of life. You miss the important thing when you do not know what success really is, by the time you are 50 years old, if you are still alive, things will begin to change and then you really know, Money isn't everything!
I am an advocate for the essentials of life....things of eternal value, not like its an easy way to be because vanity screams everywhere. Nature, Laughter, Friendship, Family, conscience: the little miracles of everyday living, the sunshine, finding time to sit down after all the hustling, having time for family, pursuing things with eternal rewards....all these things that cost nothing! We are often so busy pursuing what success is to many of us, we miss out the important moments in our lives, we just hustle and hustle chasing the wind. I have not said, people should be lazy in fact, you have to work hard to succeed but then as you run around never loose sight of what is really important. In the end, Life is short, when a man dies, it ends, whatever the predicament, whatever the success, people will talk but you see the world will move on, memories will fade with time. Focus on what is really important, as you hustle, wanting the best, enjoying at every step of the way, as you go for the impossible, as you believe in yourself to take that step.....focus on the essence, never the vanities!
Friday, December 31, 2010
Epiphany: LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!
Epiphany: LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!: "2010 is almost gone or should i say gone? Its been a great year and am sure we all have our experience like other years past, from that unbo..."
LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!
2010 is almost gone or should i say gone? Its been a great year and am sure we all have our experience like other years past, from that unborn child, to the Okada man, that dream filled student, the young teenager trying to figure out what is really cool, the graduate trying to settle for a white collar job....the business men and women in Onitsha, Alaba, Aba or let say everywhere, those trying hard to climb up the corporate ladder, the old man forgotten in one remote village, superstars and our darling politicians, whether you won or lost.....whoever you are, where ever you are, you surely can relate with 2010, you have your story!
Do not be caught in the web of making resolutions again, if you are not committed to making your everyday better,you probably be caught in the same cycle,hoping, planning but nothing happens. You just keep practicing positive thinking, reading all the good books with the best of intentions, following Donald Trump on being an apprentice....great way to live but you just have to do something about what you already know. Be tired...so tired!
Do not let anything hold you back, go all out and do your thing..live your life and commit yourself to living your best life. This is not about money, its just a thing of choice. Face what is not working in your life and stand up for yourself. yeah! do it for yourself....make yourself happy, stop making excuses for things that are keeping you back. Quit planning, now is time to do. Thats the difference, knowing what you want, thinking it trough and doing something about it. Act on what you already know.
2011 is here, make it count for you. Commit yourself to what you believe in to be true. Find the courage to be alive, make your choice and live your life. Its going to be a challenge but trust me, its going to be worth it. Lets stop blaming the economy, the government, our backgrounds for things that happen to us. its your life and you have to take responsibility for that.
lets stop worrying about what goes on in other people's lives and face our own, lets stop wondering why Beyonce is not pregnant, or why Rhianna has changed or how someone is badly dressed, how they spend their money....come down from your high seat of judgment and criticism and live your own life. Mind your business! The time we spend trying to fix other people's business, gossip their ills or how to fix Nigeria, the whole world will make sense if we start facing ourselves, start with you. As you mind yourself, be anxious for nothing, enjoy your everyday life and see the good in everything. People will not always agree with you, your choices even those who you feel are supposed to be on your side,you just have to believe in your self and keep moving. People don't trust what they cannot explain.Sometimes, its better not to care at all.
its a choice thing.....its up to you. As for me, i have made that commitment to live my best life. Life is short. Even GOD wants you to be the best. LIVE YOUR LIFE, YOUR BEST LIFE EVER!
Do not be caught in the web of making resolutions again, if you are not committed to making your everyday better,you probably be caught in the same cycle,hoping, planning but nothing happens. You just keep practicing positive thinking, reading all the good books with the best of intentions, following Donald Trump on being an apprentice....great way to live but you just have to do something about what you already know. Be tired...so tired!
Do not let anything hold you back, go all out and do your thing..live your life and commit yourself to living your best life. This is not about money, its just a thing of choice. Face what is not working in your life and stand up for yourself. yeah! do it for yourself....make yourself happy, stop making excuses for things that are keeping you back. Quit planning, now is time to do. Thats the difference, knowing what you want, thinking it trough and doing something about it. Act on what you already know.
2011 is here, make it count for you. Commit yourself to what you believe in to be true. Find the courage to be alive, make your choice and live your life. Its going to be a challenge but trust me, its going to be worth it. Lets stop blaming the economy, the government, our backgrounds for things that happen to us. its your life and you have to take responsibility for that.
lets stop worrying about what goes on in other people's lives and face our own, lets stop wondering why Beyonce is not pregnant, or why Rhianna has changed or how someone is badly dressed, how they spend their money....come down from your high seat of judgment and criticism and live your own life. Mind your business! The time we spend trying to fix other people's business, gossip their ills or how to fix Nigeria, the whole world will make sense if we start facing ourselves, start with you. As you mind yourself, be anxious for nothing, enjoy your everyday life and see the good in everything. People will not always agree with you, your choices even those who you feel are supposed to be on your side,you just have to believe in your self and keep moving. People don't trust what they cannot explain.Sometimes, its better not to care at all.
its a choice thing.....its up to you. As for me, i have made that commitment to live my best life. Life is short. Even GOD wants you to be the best. LIVE YOUR LIFE, YOUR BEST LIFE EVER!
Monday, December 20, 2010
RAT RACE....
Does that word sound familiar? i bet it does. We all know it and use it in sentences to buttress our points......but how many of us know we are in that race? like it or not, many of us are in that race? the LONGMAN DICTIONARY OF CONTEMPORARY ENGLISH describes rat race as this: "The unpleasant situation experienced by people working in big cities, when they continuously compete for success and have a lot of stress in their lives". So, even If you do not know that word, the dictionary has helped us to make it easy. It is so pathetic, very pathetic how we just run around everyday hustling and many of us are like slaves, like what one writer calls modern slavery. We continually find a reason to stick in there, we live in denial enduring stuffs we know we are better off without them. What are we so afraid of? We fear risks and instead of breaking free, we just limit ourselves.
Obviously, we like the rat race, or am i getting it wrong? people complain about everything, even their jobs but are the willing to walk away from it? no way, how will they survive? yeah, yeah, thats the whole cycle. people continually find a reason to endure, play it safe and wait for the right time for things to happen, they wait till they have saved enough, before you know, they are forty years old and some take their frustrations on their young kids who want to escape the lives their parents have lived.
For many people, career is being all dressed up with id cards and tagging your life on to one big company. The "prestige" of saying i work with this or that company, hang out with colleagues, earn some money and spend.....in the end, you have lived the most active part of your life being a slave to someone at the expense of your dreams in a bid to keep body and soul together. People just want to endure, they keep complaining but lack the courage to walk away and if you miss your way to tell them, you want to quit, they begin to tell you, how bad the economy is, why you should wait and the truth is, they will never share in your frustrations. They tell you, they understand and why you should be patient but they never follow you to work 12-14 hours. They really love you, don't you agree? telling you to endure what they never will, so much for the advice.
Life is basically choice, if you know what you want, you will get on with it. We have to tell ourselves the truth fa i just made one and know how it feels. In fact, they leave you with no friends, people will mock you for being so stupid leaving your lucrative career....but if you can make that choice, take that step, face your fears, you will get through. Ask FELA DUROTOYE and CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE, ask BASKETMOUTH and ask the average guy with a white collar job. Its not in carriage, its not in your paycheck, lets stop screaming careers like we really have one. we just get all dressed up in the morning, join the rest of the population in the race, walk tall with head high but deep down we are empty,coming home tired and wake up he next day into the same life. No time to focus on what is essential in this life but vanities. we run after things that has no eternal reward, we become selfish trying to find fulfillment in material things....just follow the bandwagon but no destination, roaming and roaming! we measure success by competing with others and we use people as a yardstick for what is really cool. we just become exhausted, running after degrees, all kinds of stuffs and we never get to have a life. We miss out on the simple miracles of everyday life, laughter, sunshine, family, friendship because we all working our asses off to fit in,to be classy and have it all. We are never satisfied. The only way out of rat race is to figure what you enjoy and make it happen.
we really should be tired of running this rat race. The average white collar faithful has watched all the seasons of THE APPRENTICE with Donald Trump, they know all the great Authors but thats how good it goes, nothing happens, its still the same rat race.. Are you not tired of reading all the books, be caught in the moment of adrenalin rush the books give you only to go back to the same life, running to the office, frustrated doing the same thing waiting for salary.You just tell yourself, one day, it will all over, you plan waiting for the right time, you never enjoy the cash because for the most part you are saving but then that day never comes,before you know, you are forty years old. we should never settle for less. set out to be the best and never limit yourself. Stop making excuses for things that are not working in your life. Stop wishing, make it happen for yourself. If you know truly, you are not happy, stop living in denial and face it. Its the least you can do for yourself. tell yourself, you deserve better, do away with thoughts that keep you down, people who that limits you to a mediocre, whoever they are. there is only one life and its up to you. As for me, i have made my choice and am sticking with it. I am getting a life for myself. Doing what i love....the cash will come, its the only way to be alive. I am tired of running the rat race!
Obviously, we like the rat race, or am i getting it wrong? people complain about everything, even their jobs but are the willing to walk away from it? no way, how will they survive? yeah, yeah, thats the whole cycle. people continually find a reason to endure, play it safe and wait for the right time for things to happen, they wait till they have saved enough, before you know, they are forty years old and some take their frustrations on their young kids who want to escape the lives their parents have lived.
For many people, career is being all dressed up with id cards and tagging your life on to one big company. The "prestige" of saying i work with this or that company, hang out with colleagues, earn some money and spend.....in the end, you have lived the most active part of your life being a slave to someone at the expense of your dreams in a bid to keep body and soul together. People just want to endure, they keep complaining but lack the courage to walk away and if you miss your way to tell them, you want to quit, they begin to tell you, how bad the economy is, why you should wait and the truth is, they will never share in your frustrations. They tell you, they understand and why you should be patient but they never follow you to work 12-14 hours. They really love you, don't you agree? telling you to endure what they never will, so much for the advice.
Life is basically choice, if you know what you want, you will get on with it. We have to tell ourselves the truth fa i just made one and know how it feels. In fact, they leave you with no friends, people will mock you for being so stupid leaving your lucrative career....but if you can make that choice, take that step, face your fears, you will get through. Ask FELA DUROTOYE and CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE, ask BASKETMOUTH and ask the average guy with a white collar job. Its not in carriage, its not in your paycheck, lets stop screaming careers like we really have one. we just get all dressed up in the morning, join the rest of the population in the race, walk tall with head high but deep down we are empty,coming home tired and wake up he next day into the same life. No time to focus on what is essential in this life but vanities. we run after things that has no eternal reward, we become selfish trying to find fulfillment in material things....just follow the bandwagon but no destination, roaming and roaming! we measure success by competing with others and we use people as a yardstick for what is really cool. we just become exhausted, running after degrees, all kinds of stuffs and we never get to have a life. We miss out on the simple miracles of everyday life, laughter, sunshine, family, friendship because we all working our asses off to fit in,to be classy and have it all. We are never satisfied. The only way out of rat race is to figure what you enjoy and make it happen.
we really should be tired of running this rat race. The average white collar faithful has watched all the seasons of THE APPRENTICE with Donald Trump, they know all the great Authors but thats how good it goes, nothing happens, its still the same rat race.. Are you not tired of reading all the books, be caught in the moment of adrenalin rush the books give you only to go back to the same life, running to the office, frustrated doing the same thing waiting for salary.You just tell yourself, one day, it will all over, you plan waiting for the right time, you never enjoy the cash because for the most part you are saving but then that day never comes,before you know, you are forty years old. we should never settle for less. set out to be the best and never limit yourself. Stop making excuses for things that are not working in your life. Stop wishing, make it happen for yourself. If you know truly, you are not happy, stop living in denial and face it. Its the least you can do for yourself. tell yourself, you deserve better, do away with thoughts that keep you down, people who that limits you to a mediocre, whoever they are. there is only one life and its up to you. As for me, i have made my choice and am sticking with it. I am getting a life for myself. Doing what i love....the cash will come, its the only way to be alive. I am tired of running the rat race!
Thursday, December 16, 2010
SEXINESS or NAKEDNESS?
I was in a bus the other day and i saw this girl on a bike with a low waist jeans, her backside was OMG!.....ouch! her string was all out and was still dirty. Arrghhhhh! i felt really embarrassed, not because of self-righteousness but some body parts are better covered, you could hear all the wild comments guys were making.....it happens to most of us. Naked women are everywhere, even in places of worship and they really rock! I just do not know how to contain my shame sometimes,you will be so shocked at how even older women old enough to mother ladies of my age dress and even big magazines use them as yardstick for saying what is good. We mix fashion with madness. we spend so much money shopping, all those stupid clothes are even more expensive but we hardly wear clothes, we are rarely covered. Being a girl is super cool.....and i love it but am not sure if sexiness is nakedness. its definitely not, i say that with no apologies.
My people, am wondering what is being Sexy anyway? does sexiness means nudity? someone please talk to me. I hear sex sells....and i am beginning to fully understand how that happens. women are beautiful creatures but i do not get why we have to be sex objects....people cannot define sexiness without naked women.... the men are forever covered, designers make skimpy women clothes, lyrical content of some songs makes it appropriate and women are fans of such dirty lyrics. Everywhere you turn, its naked women, pretty ladies dressed half naked, all kinds of boob jobs to feel sexy.....i really do not know how to understand what women have become. we can still cover our selves and feel sexy, forget all those stuffs on TV, they do not always make sense. the truth is, less is more! some parts are better covered.
Its no man's fault....we love it as women, what do you expect? the world will find a way to help us love it even more. no day passes without u seeing a naked woman on TV, there is always someone willing to it. The biggest celebrities do it, they are models for millions of women and nudity is a fast way to cash in....the pay is good. what can i say? Some baby girls' clothing are that way, boys are all covered.
guys have themselves all covered and even in musicals, the girls are the ones who have to roll their butts, spice up the screen.....its like being an object. i quite do not understand. Most times, what we see on screen as sexy girls in bikinis are just hungry looking girls, who have been photo shopped.all kinds of emptiness on the screen and tabloids, i do not know how they want us to follow those people, where are we headed? all those kind of lifestyles that does not add anything to our lives in the long run is a waste. the funny thing is that Nudity as well as pornography is taking all kinds of form,they are gradually creeping into our lives and they always appear harmless....that will be what casting crowns sang as slow fade. The world loves it, dirty, stupid stuffs....sex sells!
Being sexy should have a better definition, it should really make sense because sexiness is not in boobs, asses and plastic.... its an attitude! you can still be sexy, fun and have men all over you (if thats how you build your self esteem as a woman), be pretty and still be covered. i do not subscribe to naked women, you can wear all the clothes in all the styles and still be cute. This is not about religions, it is beyond that.
Sexiness has definitions, in fact, being naked has become a choice but you see, for me....its an attitude and it goes with what you have in your brain.
My people, am wondering what is being Sexy anyway? does sexiness means nudity? someone please talk to me. I hear sex sells....and i am beginning to fully understand how that happens. women are beautiful creatures but i do not get why we have to be sex objects....people cannot define sexiness without naked women.... the men are forever covered, designers make skimpy women clothes, lyrical content of some songs makes it appropriate and women are fans of such dirty lyrics. Everywhere you turn, its naked women, pretty ladies dressed half naked, all kinds of boob jobs to feel sexy.....i really do not know how to understand what women have become. we can still cover our selves and feel sexy, forget all those stuffs on TV, they do not always make sense. the truth is, less is more! some parts are better covered.
Its no man's fault....we love it as women, what do you expect? the world will find a way to help us love it even more. no day passes without u seeing a naked woman on TV, there is always someone willing to it. The biggest celebrities do it, they are models for millions of women and nudity is a fast way to cash in....the pay is good. what can i say? Some baby girls' clothing are that way, boys are all covered.
guys have themselves all covered and even in musicals, the girls are the ones who have to roll their butts, spice up the screen.....its like being an object. i quite do not understand. Most times, what we see on screen as sexy girls in bikinis are just hungry looking girls, who have been photo shopped.all kinds of emptiness on the screen and tabloids, i do not know how they want us to follow those people, where are we headed? all those kind of lifestyles that does not add anything to our lives in the long run is a waste. the funny thing is that Nudity as well as pornography is taking all kinds of form,they are gradually creeping into our lives and they always appear harmless....that will be what casting crowns sang as slow fade. The world loves it, dirty, stupid stuffs....sex sells!
Being sexy should have a better definition, it should really make sense because sexiness is not in boobs, asses and plastic.... its an attitude! you can still be sexy, fun and have men all over you (if thats how you build your self esteem as a woman), be pretty and still be covered. i do not subscribe to naked women, you can wear all the clothes in all the styles and still be cute. This is not about religions, it is beyond that.
Sexiness has definitions, in fact, being naked has become a choice but you see, for me....its an attitude and it goes with what you have in your brain.
HOW WHITE IS YOUR COLLAR?
The last time i was on leave, i took my CV around Lagos, to see what i could get, a better job perhaps but the whole thing is just so difficult and that gave me a hint of what the unemployed experience. its complete nonsense! The rate of unemployment is alarming in NIGERIA.....its just pathetic! People roaming the streets to get a job. applicants are sometimes left with the choice to settle for less and even with that choice, where are the jobs?
When i was in school, it was so much about the grades, its almost like your life and your success in life is tied to it....thats what they tell you,but in the end life outside the citadel of learning is a whole new experience.our schools are not doing much to educate students about the real world and parents do not make it happen often. There is so much preference for white collar jobs like they always make sense. They magnify it, paint it and just make students relish it but in reality, you are better off doing what you love. working for money will not take you far, in the long run, you get stuck in a circle, roaming around the same place and your dreams fade before your very eyes. many white collar jobs make promises and make it look rosy but its obviously a case of modern day slavery. many people do not enjoy what they do, deep down they know that but you see, they continually live in denial, they find a reason to justify and endure.
when you are an applicant, they invite you for test and make it look like you will be so lucky to work with them, you write the aptitude test feeling and praying your heart out....when you finally get that "big shot", you soon realize, its a circle and as long as you have human elements, there will be selfishness and eye service.
Sometimes, when you are good at what you do, you become a threat to people, that Is why mediocrity has eaten deep into the fabrics of our society. WE PREACH EXCELLENCE but in some cases, superiors will find a way to counter subordinates even when it can move the establishment forward or they just do it and take the glory.
People have to stop worrying about white collar jobs especially if you are an applicant and you are tired, look for it elsewhere because, the frustrations on many white collar jobs are heartbreaking.They promise but they do not deliver half of it. the job functions most times have nothing to do with the aptitude tests, it is basically common sense. they just do not want to employ the reason, they make the conditions hard, not because you are not qualified or good enough. How many of this employers were first class products, they just magnify themselves, tell their employees to continually paint the company good.its true, an employee should pay allegiance to the employer, great way to be employed but for the most part its all a mirage.it is just no use hustling MBA all in a bid to look for a better job. you are better of as your own boss. many people just get a job and the excitement of that first blinds them, all sorts of incentives that blocks your reasoning as an employee and when you try to break away, you are labeled a rebel and you usually do not have friends. in fact, the time it takes to rise up the ladder is just too much a time. the best thing is to have a plan, as soon as you starting a job, define how far you want to stay and the experience you want, then move along. As long as you an employee, you are limited. No matter how rich you are, no matter how many zeros your account is reading, the man at the top calls the shot. the reality about life is that working for someone is good because you need that experience to grow and you need the cash to settle your bills. it is also important to switch jobs and expand our horizon. whatever you decide, i want to say... when it is a job, it is for the money and whatever does not translate to cash is nothing. it is the reason you want the job but you cannot continue to work for someone all your life. Even if at all you have to work, make sure you are doing what you love.
People always settle for less in life, what is the point continually doing something you do not love? when you have reached the point of saturation, you will understand that no amount of money can fill that emptiness, you will never be satisfied like when you do what you love for free. most people are not willing to let go, they are so terrified of being out of the job, of being without money and you see, employers know this and they cap on it. i agree, its just hard being without money but let the truth be told. Tell yourself, you deserve better because even God wants the best for you. do not be afraid to take risks, to live your life, to be who you want to be. make up your mind to rise above mediocrity, to move up away from the average life, its one life. you do not have forever. Many of the big shots made up their minds and walk into what they wanted and today, you are running after them for jobs. stop looking for white collar jobs, learn a trade or a craft, improve on your skills and find a way to reach people it does not matter how little you earn as your own boss, you are better off,you are in charge and you have a life. earning salary will never make u rich, except you want to settle for less.
This piece is a familiar topic am sure because we hear successful people tell us, we hear it everyday. we even know it is true that you are better off doing what you love. if you are working a white collar job and you are so taken by that job, i want to ask, how white is your collar? all these carriage we form, all these fake lives we are living is no life at all.
This has to translate to my personal life otherwise, it will be a waste writing this.My Life has to reflect it......that is integrity. I am starting out as a blogger and i know how much satisfaction this gives me. Life is about planning, i am not saying you should jump out of your job but you need a plan. you need a direction on the life You want and be determined to have it. it is not easy...it is plenty of work but do not just sit there and know what is right, do something about it.
When i was in school, it was so much about the grades, its almost like your life and your success in life is tied to it....thats what they tell you,but in the end life outside the citadel of learning is a whole new experience.our schools are not doing much to educate students about the real world and parents do not make it happen often. There is so much preference for white collar jobs like they always make sense. They magnify it, paint it and just make students relish it but in reality, you are better off doing what you love. working for money will not take you far, in the long run, you get stuck in a circle, roaming around the same place and your dreams fade before your very eyes. many white collar jobs make promises and make it look rosy but its obviously a case of modern day slavery. many people do not enjoy what they do, deep down they know that but you see, they continually live in denial, they find a reason to justify and endure.
when you are an applicant, they invite you for test and make it look like you will be so lucky to work with them, you write the aptitude test feeling and praying your heart out....when you finally get that "big shot", you soon realize, its a circle and as long as you have human elements, there will be selfishness and eye service.
Sometimes, when you are good at what you do, you become a threat to people, that Is why mediocrity has eaten deep into the fabrics of our society. WE PREACH EXCELLENCE but in some cases, superiors will find a way to counter subordinates even when it can move the establishment forward or they just do it and take the glory.
People have to stop worrying about white collar jobs especially if you are an applicant and you are tired, look for it elsewhere because, the frustrations on many white collar jobs are heartbreaking.They promise but they do not deliver half of it. the job functions most times have nothing to do with the aptitude tests, it is basically common sense. they just do not want to employ the reason, they make the conditions hard, not because you are not qualified or good enough. How many of this employers were first class products, they just magnify themselves, tell their employees to continually paint the company good.its true, an employee should pay allegiance to the employer, great way to be employed but for the most part its all a mirage.it is just no use hustling MBA all in a bid to look for a better job. you are better of as your own boss. many people just get a job and the excitement of that first blinds them, all sorts of incentives that blocks your reasoning as an employee and when you try to break away, you are labeled a rebel and you usually do not have friends. in fact, the time it takes to rise up the ladder is just too much a time. the best thing is to have a plan, as soon as you starting a job, define how far you want to stay and the experience you want, then move along. As long as you an employee, you are limited. No matter how rich you are, no matter how many zeros your account is reading, the man at the top calls the shot. the reality about life is that working for someone is good because you need that experience to grow and you need the cash to settle your bills. it is also important to switch jobs and expand our horizon. whatever you decide, i want to say... when it is a job, it is for the money and whatever does not translate to cash is nothing. it is the reason you want the job but you cannot continue to work for someone all your life. Even if at all you have to work, make sure you are doing what you love.
People always settle for less in life, what is the point continually doing something you do not love? when you have reached the point of saturation, you will understand that no amount of money can fill that emptiness, you will never be satisfied like when you do what you love for free. most people are not willing to let go, they are so terrified of being out of the job, of being without money and you see, employers know this and they cap on it. i agree, its just hard being without money but let the truth be told. Tell yourself, you deserve better because even God wants the best for you. do not be afraid to take risks, to live your life, to be who you want to be. make up your mind to rise above mediocrity, to move up away from the average life, its one life. you do not have forever. Many of the big shots made up their minds and walk into what they wanted and today, you are running after them for jobs. stop looking for white collar jobs, learn a trade or a craft, improve on your skills and find a way to reach people it does not matter how little you earn as your own boss, you are better off,you are in charge and you have a life. earning salary will never make u rich, except you want to settle for less.
This piece is a familiar topic am sure because we hear successful people tell us, we hear it everyday. we even know it is true that you are better off doing what you love. if you are working a white collar job and you are so taken by that job, i want to ask, how white is your collar? all these carriage we form, all these fake lives we are living is no life at all.
This has to translate to my personal life otherwise, it will be a waste writing this.My Life has to reflect it......that is integrity. I am starting out as a blogger and i know how much satisfaction this gives me. Life is about planning, i am not saying you should jump out of your job but you need a plan. you need a direction on the life You want and be determined to have it. it is not easy...it is plenty of work but do not just sit there and know what is right, do something about it.
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