I was in a bus the other day and i saw this girl on a bike with a low waist jeans, her backside was OMG!.....ouch! her string was all out and was still dirty. Arrghhhhh! i felt really embarrassed, not because of self-righteousness but some body parts are better covered, you could hear all the wild comments guys were making.....it happens to most of us. Naked women are everywhere, even in places of worship and they really rock! I just do not know how to contain my shame sometimes,you will be so shocked at how even older women old enough to mother ladies of my age dress and even big magazines use them as yardstick for saying what is good. We mix fashion with madness. we spend so much money shopping, all those stupid clothes are even more expensive but we hardly wear clothes, we are rarely covered. Being a girl is super cool.....and i love it but am not sure if sexiness is nakedness. its definitely not, i say that with no apologies.
My people, am wondering what is being Sexy anyway? does sexiness means nudity? someone please talk to me. I hear sex sells....and i am beginning to fully understand how that happens. women are beautiful creatures but i do not get why we have to be sex objects....people cannot define sexiness without naked women.... the men are forever covered, designers make skimpy women clothes, lyrical content of some songs makes it appropriate and women are fans of such dirty lyrics. Everywhere you turn, its naked women, pretty ladies dressed half naked, all kinds of boob jobs to feel sexy.....i really do not know how to understand what women have become. we can still cover our selves and feel sexy, forget all those stuffs on TV, they do not always make sense. the truth is, less is more! some parts are better covered.
Its no man's fault....we love it as women, what do you expect? the world will find a way to help us love it even more. no day passes without u seeing a naked woman on TV, there is always someone willing to it. The biggest celebrities do it, they are models for millions of women and nudity is a fast way to cash in....the pay is good. what can i say? Some baby girls' clothing are that way, boys are all covered.
guys have themselves all covered and even in musicals, the girls are the ones who have to roll their butts, spice up the screen.....its like being an object. i quite do not understand. Most times, what we see on screen as sexy girls in bikinis are just hungry looking girls, who have been photo shopped.all kinds of emptiness on the screen and tabloids, i do not know how they want us to follow those people, where are we headed? all those kind of lifestyles that does not add anything to our lives in the long run is a waste. the funny thing is that Nudity as well as pornography is taking all kinds of form,they are gradually creeping into our lives and they always appear harmless....that will be what casting crowns sang as slow fade. The world loves it, dirty, stupid stuffs....sex sells!
Being sexy should have a better definition, it should really make sense because sexiness is not in boobs, asses and plastic.... its an attitude! you can still be sexy, fun and have men all over you (if thats how you build your self esteem as a woman), be pretty and still be covered. i do not subscribe to naked women, you can wear all the clothes in all the styles and still be cute. This is not about religions, it is beyond that.
Sexiness has definitions, in fact, being naked has become a choice but you see, for me....its an attitude and it goes with what you have in your brain.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
HOW WHITE IS YOUR COLLAR?
The last time i was on leave, i took my CV around Lagos, to see what i could get, a better job perhaps but the whole thing is just so difficult and that gave me a hint of what the unemployed experience. its complete nonsense! The rate of unemployment is alarming in NIGERIA.....its just pathetic! People roaming the streets to get a job. applicants are sometimes left with the choice to settle for less and even with that choice, where are the jobs?
When i was in school, it was so much about the grades, its almost like your life and your success in life is tied to it....thats what they tell you,but in the end life outside the citadel of learning is a whole new experience.our schools are not doing much to educate students about the real world and parents do not make it happen often. There is so much preference for white collar jobs like they always make sense. They magnify it, paint it and just make students relish it but in reality, you are better off doing what you love. working for money will not take you far, in the long run, you get stuck in a circle, roaming around the same place and your dreams fade before your very eyes. many white collar jobs make promises and make it look rosy but its obviously a case of modern day slavery. many people do not enjoy what they do, deep down they know that but you see, they continually live in denial, they find a reason to justify and endure.
when you are an applicant, they invite you for test and make it look like you will be so lucky to work with them, you write the aptitude test feeling and praying your heart out....when you finally get that "big shot", you soon realize, its a circle and as long as you have human elements, there will be selfishness and eye service.
Sometimes, when you are good at what you do, you become a threat to people, that Is why mediocrity has eaten deep into the fabrics of our society. WE PREACH EXCELLENCE but in some cases, superiors will find a way to counter subordinates even when it can move the establishment forward or they just do it and take the glory.
People have to stop worrying about white collar jobs especially if you are an applicant and you are tired, look for it elsewhere because, the frustrations on many white collar jobs are heartbreaking.They promise but they do not deliver half of it. the job functions most times have nothing to do with the aptitude tests, it is basically common sense. they just do not want to employ the reason, they make the conditions hard, not because you are not qualified or good enough. How many of this employers were first class products, they just magnify themselves, tell their employees to continually paint the company good.its true, an employee should pay allegiance to the employer, great way to be employed but for the most part its all a mirage.it is just no use hustling MBA all in a bid to look for a better job. you are better of as your own boss. many people just get a job and the excitement of that first blinds them, all sorts of incentives that blocks your reasoning as an employee and when you try to break away, you are labeled a rebel and you usually do not have friends. in fact, the time it takes to rise up the ladder is just too much a time. the best thing is to have a plan, as soon as you starting a job, define how far you want to stay and the experience you want, then move along. As long as you an employee, you are limited. No matter how rich you are, no matter how many zeros your account is reading, the man at the top calls the shot. the reality about life is that working for someone is good because you need that experience to grow and you need the cash to settle your bills. it is also important to switch jobs and expand our horizon. whatever you decide, i want to say... when it is a job, it is for the money and whatever does not translate to cash is nothing. it is the reason you want the job but you cannot continue to work for someone all your life. Even if at all you have to work, make sure you are doing what you love.
People always settle for less in life, what is the point continually doing something you do not love? when you have reached the point of saturation, you will understand that no amount of money can fill that emptiness, you will never be satisfied like when you do what you love for free. most people are not willing to let go, they are so terrified of being out of the job, of being without money and you see, employers know this and they cap on it. i agree, its just hard being without money but let the truth be told. Tell yourself, you deserve better because even God wants the best for you. do not be afraid to take risks, to live your life, to be who you want to be. make up your mind to rise above mediocrity, to move up away from the average life, its one life. you do not have forever. Many of the big shots made up their minds and walk into what they wanted and today, you are running after them for jobs. stop looking for white collar jobs, learn a trade or a craft, improve on your skills and find a way to reach people it does not matter how little you earn as your own boss, you are better off,you are in charge and you have a life. earning salary will never make u rich, except you want to settle for less.
This piece is a familiar topic am sure because we hear successful people tell us, we hear it everyday. we even know it is true that you are better off doing what you love. if you are working a white collar job and you are so taken by that job, i want to ask, how white is your collar? all these carriage we form, all these fake lives we are living is no life at all.
This has to translate to my personal life otherwise, it will be a waste writing this.My Life has to reflect it......that is integrity. I am starting out as a blogger and i know how much satisfaction this gives me. Life is about planning, i am not saying you should jump out of your job but you need a plan. you need a direction on the life You want and be determined to have it. it is not easy...it is plenty of work but do not just sit there and know what is right, do something about it.
When i was in school, it was so much about the grades, its almost like your life and your success in life is tied to it....thats what they tell you,but in the end life outside the citadel of learning is a whole new experience.our schools are not doing much to educate students about the real world and parents do not make it happen often. There is so much preference for white collar jobs like they always make sense. They magnify it, paint it and just make students relish it but in reality, you are better off doing what you love. working for money will not take you far, in the long run, you get stuck in a circle, roaming around the same place and your dreams fade before your very eyes. many white collar jobs make promises and make it look rosy but its obviously a case of modern day slavery. many people do not enjoy what they do, deep down they know that but you see, they continually live in denial, they find a reason to justify and endure.
when you are an applicant, they invite you for test and make it look like you will be so lucky to work with them, you write the aptitude test feeling and praying your heart out....when you finally get that "big shot", you soon realize, its a circle and as long as you have human elements, there will be selfishness and eye service.
Sometimes, when you are good at what you do, you become a threat to people, that Is why mediocrity has eaten deep into the fabrics of our society. WE PREACH EXCELLENCE but in some cases, superiors will find a way to counter subordinates even when it can move the establishment forward or they just do it and take the glory.
People have to stop worrying about white collar jobs especially if you are an applicant and you are tired, look for it elsewhere because, the frustrations on many white collar jobs are heartbreaking.They promise but they do not deliver half of it. the job functions most times have nothing to do with the aptitude tests, it is basically common sense. they just do not want to employ the reason, they make the conditions hard, not because you are not qualified or good enough. How many of this employers were first class products, they just magnify themselves, tell their employees to continually paint the company good.its true, an employee should pay allegiance to the employer, great way to be employed but for the most part its all a mirage.it is just no use hustling MBA all in a bid to look for a better job. you are better of as your own boss. many people just get a job and the excitement of that first blinds them, all sorts of incentives that blocks your reasoning as an employee and when you try to break away, you are labeled a rebel and you usually do not have friends. in fact, the time it takes to rise up the ladder is just too much a time. the best thing is to have a plan, as soon as you starting a job, define how far you want to stay and the experience you want, then move along. As long as you an employee, you are limited. No matter how rich you are, no matter how many zeros your account is reading, the man at the top calls the shot. the reality about life is that working for someone is good because you need that experience to grow and you need the cash to settle your bills. it is also important to switch jobs and expand our horizon. whatever you decide, i want to say... when it is a job, it is for the money and whatever does not translate to cash is nothing. it is the reason you want the job but you cannot continue to work for someone all your life. Even if at all you have to work, make sure you are doing what you love.
People always settle for less in life, what is the point continually doing something you do not love? when you have reached the point of saturation, you will understand that no amount of money can fill that emptiness, you will never be satisfied like when you do what you love for free. most people are not willing to let go, they are so terrified of being out of the job, of being without money and you see, employers know this and they cap on it. i agree, its just hard being without money but let the truth be told. Tell yourself, you deserve better because even God wants the best for you. do not be afraid to take risks, to live your life, to be who you want to be. make up your mind to rise above mediocrity, to move up away from the average life, its one life. you do not have forever. Many of the big shots made up their minds and walk into what they wanted and today, you are running after them for jobs. stop looking for white collar jobs, learn a trade or a craft, improve on your skills and find a way to reach people it does not matter how little you earn as your own boss, you are better off,you are in charge and you have a life. earning salary will never make u rich, except you want to settle for less.
This piece is a familiar topic am sure because we hear successful people tell us, we hear it everyday. we even know it is true that you are better off doing what you love. if you are working a white collar job and you are so taken by that job, i want to ask, how white is your collar? all these carriage we form, all these fake lives we are living is no life at all.
This has to translate to my personal life otherwise, it will be a waste writing this.My Life has to reflect it......that is integrity. I am starting out as a blogger and i know how much satisfaction this gives me. Life is about planning, i am not saying you should jump out of your job but you need a plan. you need a direction on the life You want and be determined to have it. it is not easy...it is plenty of work but do not just sit there and know what is right, do something about it.
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