GENERATION X & Y; DOES IT WORK HERE? part one

I have been very interested with this generation X and Y demographics for as long as I can remember. I just wanted to see it from the Nigerian context, to be sure it happens here and if it happens here. Truth is, generation X and Y happens everywhere. I have been hearing that word and my curiosity heightened. The best way to learn is to understand because understanding gives you wisdom, the light to excel.

What Generation X and Y represent is very important to work ethics and success of any organisation. If we understand the dynamics, our relationships will be better. We have to accept that this Generation X and Y demographics exist here in Nigeria, not by lip service but by the way employer and employee relate. It will demystify a lot of myths and help human relationships on all levels.

There are different meanings to the generation X and Y demographics but my favourite remains this explanation I read from an article. It describes the Generation Xers as people between 1961 -1981, the Yers; born between 1982 – 2002 and of course the Baby Boomers who are our supposed parents born between 1943 – 1960.  Some describe the Yers as people between the ages of 18 – 28 and the Xers as people between 29 – 42. The Generation Y to which I belong by these demographics are the tech savvy of this generation and that is the truth. For us technology is so much fun and we spend so much time on line that we do watching TV. But for the Xers used techs to support a lifestyle need.  I find this to be very interesting and very enlightening. It helps me understand a whole lot of things and how I am not alone in my behavioural pattern; after all it is okay to belong to the Yers, it is what the society has become.

RELATIONSHIPS

I write this with preference to human relationships and preference to work place myths. It is part of our training syllabus, we have been hearing it around here but do we actually practise it to its every letter around here? Are the Xers willing to accept the Yers just as we are or they expect the Yers to conform?

Parents will understand their teenagers better and guide them to make right choices. The world has changed and when you have curious Yers under your roof, they will satisfy that hunger even without your help. The whole is different. Our expectations, values and motivations are just different.
The Yers want balance and sacrifice is different for them. Families are structured differently and human relationships are just different.

 To be continued.........
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KIM KARDASHIAN, JUSTIN BIEBER......and what about it?

I find some of these headlines way so uneccesary. So what is the big deal about Kim Kardashian and Kris Humprey having a divorce? are people really suprised? from the very first day, they married, they have been under the radar. There have been shorter celeb marriages and some have longer Courtships than marriages. Kim had a fairy tale weddding but am not sure she knew what marriage is...for better, for worst, in sickness and in health. I hear she is pregnant. She will cope....they know why they split...and we'll continue to hear all manner of stuffs. Kim still hangs texts Kris and they communicate. I also hear she was not into the guy in the first place but a celebrity stunt. whatever!

 As for Justin Bieber...people have to get realistic. He is human and can do wrong. That he must father a child with Selena Gomes is just childhood drama. So he fathered a child with Maria....waht about it? a lot of young girls are so obssesed with Justin, that they think all manner of unrealistic stuffs. people have to get over this guy. He is having a great life and moving forward...how about the rest of us? besides, we are not even sure, its his baby!

SWEET KNOWLEDGE!

Believe it exactly as you see it. Knowledge is sweet, it is power and its important to human progress cannot be over emphasized.  People are lost, they are seeking for something and some do not even know what it is they seek but they know they are chasing something. People suffer in life because they simple don’t know what to do it. They become overwhelmed, confused, and bitter…. They just stay stuck in their predicament. Believe me; having the right information can change your whole life, it can save you. Ask me how I know? It saved me.

Taking a break from what my life used to be has plenty benefits. I put my supposed “precious” dream on hold, stepped out of my usual self and opened my mind to seek. I just knew that there was more to life and I wanted more….something with more purpose beyond material possessions….it was soul searching! I admit, there are times I got lost, failed, confused and I had my doubts if I was doing the right thing; perhaps I was in such a rush or maybe I was loosing my mind but it was all in my head as I later discovered.

I did not understand what success meant because my meaning was tied to what the rest of the world defined it to be and so i imposed  role models on myself, I wanted to be so perfect, do no wrong…does it make sense? I just got worked up over nothing and exhausted. I was wrong; success was a personal experience, it is what you define it to be and it has to suit your purpose in life. You should not define success through another man’s eyes. It is your life and you are responsible. Don’t let people tell you what your course in life should be, you define it, run it! Simply because i was lost and did not at that time know what success meant, I tied my whole life to some role models, people who were just as lost as I was, how can a blind man lead a blind man? Role models dealing with rehabs, getting through divorce after divorce, they look happy but then they have no life.

What you know can save your life and it gives you power. Self esteem, anger, bitterness, anxiety and all things tied to can be linked to what people don’t know. When I say knowledge, knowing…..it comes with doing. That you have read it and have heard it is nothing if you are not acting on it. Until that your supposed knowing is backed by action there is no wisdom there.

I went on a journey of self discovery, hunger and adventure; I became a child again and it saved my life. The world becomes faster everyday, things thrive on chaos and people continually join the band wagon; it is all because we don’t know what is really important and while we think we know what we really want, we get our lives moulded up in the rat race. They point remains that we lack wisdom and wisdom is accepting that you don’t know that is how you learn. Our minds are closed to change, breaking outside the norm is so hard, we are so sure we are doing the right thing, especially as it looks like success and that is where the greater part of the world is heading…….people are lost, blinded by their supposed self-assurance, living a life of denial. The point is, it does not change anything; many discover later in their lives that they have been living another man’s life, running opposite direction and abandoned their own course in life. The truth is we simply do not know. Seeking has helped me to know and applying it has saved me. My life has changed and I now know what I want. My life is much simpler and I have learnt patience. Patience helped me understand that after you have done your best, you must leave the rest for God; the point is in the end you will be fine, you will get there in a good time. Cutting corners and compromising may be appealing and sweet but then it is a slow ay to destroy myself. My life is simpler; I am happier and feeling lighter.

Be the type of man who is eager to learn, hungry to know. Close your mind to what you knew and open your self to new things. While you are so sure you know already, you will be shocked at the simple things you don’t know. Believe me, knowledge is sweet!

FROM EGYPT TO CANAAN LAND

God’s description of your Canaan Land……

Deuteronomy 11:10 – 12 (KJV)

“For the land, whither thou goest in to possess it, is not as the land of Egypt, from whence ye came out, where thou whence ye came out, where thou sowedst thy seed and wateredst it with thy foot, as a garden of herbs:

But the land, whither ye go to possess it, is a land of hills and valleys, and drinketh water of the rain of heaven:

A land which the LORD thy God careth for: the eyes of the LORD thy God are always upon it, from the beginning of the year even unto the end of the year”

Deuteronomy 8:7, 9 (KJV)

“For the LORD thy God bringeth thee into a good land, a land of brooks of water, of fountains and depths that spring out of valleys and hills.

A land wherein thou shalt eat bread without scarceness, thou shalt not lack anything in it”.

Life is always a choice, that has not changed and so, when it comes to moving from your Egypt, where you are a slave to your Canaan Land where you have the best of Living, it is all up to you. Egypt could be Safe but it does not change the fact that you are still a slave.  Until you move, you will not get to the place of your lifting, all you do is toil and break your back, thinking you are living one great life…..but all you are doing is existing. In Egypt, your dreams will never happen, you will always be a mediocre and you will never get the chance to run your own race. It is in running your own race that your life is fulfilled. God wants you to move to move to Canaan Land, Egypt is not his plan for you.

 

Moving from that Egypt to your Canaan Land is a necessary step if you want to live your life to the fullest. It is not an easy journey because there is a Pharaoh you have submitted to who will not let your go, unless you break away forcefully.  As much as we would love to leave Egypt to Canaan Land, we are yet to decide if we will give up our Pharaohs. He makes us safe and he provides for us (so we think), being his slave is better than facing the Red Sea and the Desert.

For most of us, we are so much in Love with our Egypt that we think that is the best way of life; we have no plans of leaving, not now perhaps. We hear of our Canaan Land and there is a feeling that things will be better there but we are not sure we are ready to take that risk. How can we risk the Egypt we already have for a Canaan Land we are not so sure of? It is an unknown path and for fear of failing, we just stay in our Egypt…. We are safe in Egypt, which is enough reason. Better still, let us wait for our Moses to come and deliver us.

You must know now that Moses will never come if you are waiting for a Moses to come and contend with your Pharaoh. You are the Prophet of your life, you are the Moses of your deliverance and you have to make the decision to leave Egypt now.

 Aren’t tired of running around in circles? Don’t you want more out of life? Or you just want to sit around all your life, feeling under achieved, wasted, spent and unhappy? Are you going to be waiting on it all your life? For that big break, for a motivator?  It is your life and you should want better, you should want more because you deserve more. Reject the life of a slave. A life that does not help you be the best you can be, the type of relationships that makes you feel inadequate.

The journey to Canaan Land is not easy I have to tell you. You will face uncertainties, hunger, fear, there will be battles to fight and that you must win. There is the famous Red Sea which you must face to cross over to the other side. It is a fight and you must activate your faith to run your race. Egypt may look promising but the promise land is better. You must desire to leave Egypt and all it has to offer you. You must dethrone the Pharaoh that is ruling your life, keeping you in Egypt for the goodies of the moment and run with your life to that promise land.  Decide to move to your Canaan land regardless of the challenges on the way.  You are the prophet of your life and that makes you your own Moses. Talk a walk now from Egypt, your Canaan Land is waiting for you.

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$2.5 MILLION BRA....what for ? MEET THE BRA!

Please people what is the purpose of a $2.5 miilion bra? it is a pretty bra and Miranda Kerr worked it well. It is a masterpiece. She modelled the company’s Fantasy Treasure Bra, a $2.5 million diamond-studded piece that will appear in the Christmas Dreams & Fantasies catalogue. She said she is honoured to have modelled it on her chest and she said something of feeling like a mermaid.....Great and record breaking but what then?                      

Created by Long Island’s London Jewelers the push-up bra was handset with 3,400 precious gems and offers 142 carats of yellow and white diamonds along with pearls, faceted citrines and aquamarines which were all set in 18-karat white and yellow gold.  If you don’t mind taking a second to stare at the bra you’ll also notice two 8 carat white diamonds in the centerpiece alongside two 14-plus-carat yellow diamonds.
Like...you wear it and fly or what exactly? or may be its for breasts made from gold...probably not an underwear, an attire, Nicki Minaj should wear it....She went topless days back...so i guess it will work!

I am trying to understand what this is for? some of these things are purely vain and after sometime, it fades because we will be looking for something more current. Another bra...who is going to wear it? It is funny. Maybe, when i get there, that place...i will understand how and why a $2.5 million bra is neccesary!  Fashion definitely has levels....high fashion, this must be representing but am not sure am all for it....$2.5 million bra? exactly what for? I guess i cannot understand this level of fashion!

CHRIS TUCKER TO BECOME HOMELESS?

      

How bad does it get? I am trying not to believe.....like Chris Tucker to be homeless? oh yes! the RUSH HOURS star with JACKIE CHAN.  He is said to owe more than $4 million to his lender for his florida mansion.....  His Pirate ship mansion has reportedly been put up for sale at $6 million and the IRS  says he owes $1157909.26 in Federal Taxes...what? perhaps, you fix the commas on that figure and your hear will skip! Like how?  Some quaters have advised him not to hold unto something that huge when they paycheck from the job isn't coming as it supposedly should....like when you have disappeared from the hollywood map as E! puts it. This is a hoax maybe! but Money can fly away, it has wings, don't you agree? I like Chris Tucker and am hoping he sorts himself out. Things fade, even Fame. He is in the bad side of the news right now...on the gossip headlines for all the wrong reasons. When you are messed up financially in Hollywood, there is no mercy.
So obviously, if it eventually happens, it says that anybody, whoever; can fall from grace (if that's the case here). Hollywood is about the height of celebrity....but people go in and come out daily,star fade and new ones shine daily. I guess because they are stars, we never get to hear till the whole thing get to the extreme. Perhaps, Hollywood gives and takes it again!

  

Yesterday, i read about one AUSTIN POWER (the Movie) star , Joe Son,being involved in allegedly murdering his cellmate.
He has been prison for past rape charges....and i go....huh?  Even Hollywood? like Rogues are everywhere, being in Hollywood obviously does not change a thing. It is not all as it seems, it is not all perfect and anybody can be messed up. They just have to find a reason to straighten up.
Two actors in major Blockbusters in two different types of mess. Bad image either ways and i have to wonder what goes on in thier minds right now..... C'est la vie!

BEING A CHILD ALL OVER AGAIN

Being a child was not without dreams…

you cannot be a child and not have fantasies, it’s exactly why children are who they are. That was like experiencing Carte blanche. You find inspirations every where. Children just believe any dream was possible. You dream of buying any car, building a house, travelling all over the world and even to the moon, for all you cared about, nothing was impossible. Adults would laugh sometimes because they felt; children did not understand how the world works and life isn’t easy, as I started hearing later on in my life. I guess being a child has many advantages, just as children believe, they easily forgive. Adults are just complicated, I guess; they have a fast way of judging everything and taking sides. Adults are for the most part serious; some do not even have time to joke!

I have always had dreams and all manner perhaps, I believe in wishes (as dumb as it may be) because I know you sometimes get what you wish for and dreams still do come true. As a child, when I saw Doctors, I wanted to be one, when I saw a cute Nurse like my mum; I wanted to be that Nurse. When I saw a lawyer with that gown and wig, I am the first to want to be that lawyer, when I boarded a plane; I just wanted to be a Pilot in that cockpit, when I saw Patti Boulaye on Lux beauty soap commercial, I wanted to be, I wanted to be that model in Venus de Milo advert…… everything was just possible, I could be all of them joined together. For all I know, God loved me and I never doubted that but as an adult, when things get really tight, it is so easy to forget.

As I grew older I started aligning my dreams to what I thought would be okay, what was normal, what the society considered to be success. As time passed, I figured exactly what was really important and I made sure sometimes that I did not get my life complicated like adults. I always wanted that childlike carefree nature and make believe of that little girl to follow me, it is the best feeling in the world because it helps you keep your sanity in a world of deadly competition. When I look back now to what my life has become, one thing has always stuck in my head; I wanted to be happy. That after all that ambition, I still wanted that space to be part of my life, to be normal, happy and having the chance to enjoy life’s everyday little miracles. I never wanted to miss precious moments, I wanted family, genuine friendship, empathy, to run around the house, sharing, walking bare feet on the sand, lying down on the grass and watching the stars, play in the streams, be in the car and watch the trees as though they were moving backwards, playing in the rain…..and all that. As I figured, I could still be an adult, get my life moving but enjoy the little stuffs like a child; after all, the best things in life are free. I discovered that like most adults being busy does not mean you are productive and I seriously did not want my life to be an assembling line, just running over the same thing over and over; I love adventure and I wanted the fire to burn as long as God keeps me alive. I discovered that money with all that comes with it, will not give you everything and living above my means practically kept me in debt.

There was a time I was always a child for a long time and then I suddenly grew up. Growing up to be the adult I never wanted. Busy, complicated and always agitated. That was when I stepped back and said I wanted to be a child again, re-evaluate my life and understand where I missed it. Things you experience growing up helps you to understand what you really want in life and as I discovered, many adults do not want that complications in their lives, people want to be happy, enjoy the simple things!

I just knew that my dreams had to agree with my personal philosophies and that life is one short trip. The fun is in what happens while you are on the road, not when you reach your destination. Every moment is important and you have to make it count. You cannot be lost in the crowd, you have to get a life and live it. Things you experience growing up helps you to understand what you really want in life and as I discovered, many adults do not want that complications in their lives, people want to be happy, enjoy the simple things!

I just knew that my dreams had to agree with my personal philosophies and that life is one short trip. The fun is in what happens while you are on the road, not when you reach your destination. Every moment is important and you have to make it count. You cannot be lost in the crowd, you have to get a life and live it. You may not be exactly famous like the other guy or girl but it is okay. You can still fit in somewhere and do something. Taking life serious may be okay but it does not necessarily mean you are making progress. You have to enjoy your routine like the child building that sand castle on the beach, which is the only way it will not feel like work.

Right now, I know I cannot be the Doctor, the Lawyer, the Nurse altogether and whatever I decide to is entirely my choice but I cannot and should never loose my mind chasing whatever I wanted to be. Happiness is a thing that you have to define for yourself, only then can you experience it. Happiness is not what people say it is; it is what you know for sure it is. Whatever I choose to be should not be my master, it should not control my life, it should fit into my life as a whole because it is my life and I am in charge of it.

Now that I know to a large extent what I want in life, my life is much easier, no complications, things are simple and I don’t get agitated over problems.

 I do not loose my sleep and I take responsibility for my choices. I don’t get my life fixed on competing with another person; I have my own race to run to the finish. Getting all worked up like shit does not happen is not a good sign. In the end, you have to believe, you will be alright. Enjoy your life and take a cue from that child in your neighbourhood.

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